December 4, 2013 by gabnormal
In a recent New York Times piece, actress and activist Maria Bello essentially came out as nothing. Not gay, not straight, just as loving who she loves and not defining herself by who she sleeps with.
And it was awesome.
The beauty in her piece was not only through what she said outright but also in what she quietly said between the lines; sexual orientation does not have to define who you are if you do not want it to.
Everyone is yelling that she has come out as a lesbian but for those who have actually read the piece, that is not exactly true. She even states explicitly “I have never defined myself by whom I slept with, but I know others have and would.”
The labels “gay” and “straight” have caused not only internal strife with many people who are conflicted about their sexual identity but has also caused an incredible amount of pain and conflict between people as well. Many don’t realize that they have a third option, one that the founder at GCR likes very much, and that is to non-identify.
You don’t have to be gay, or straight, or anything else for that matter. Nothing and no one with any level of authority on the matter says that you have to choose, gay or straight. And for some, that works out just fine.